It takes a different type of courage to defy the norms and own the decision to identify as a Side but now Grindr has done some of the hard work. Sides fight stereotypes too, with Kort explaining, “A lot of tops and bottoms call sides boring, virgins, trauma survivors, ‘you haven’t met the right guy,’ give me 10 minutes inside you and you’ll be speaking a different tune, et cetera,” he said, a trope many queer folks experience when they first come out of the closest. AdvertisementQueer men who identify as a ‘bottom’ are well familiar with the misogynistic idea that being penetrated is somehow less masculine.
